EMOTIONAL LITERACY
Our aim is to bring the best out of every pupil that attends Ermine Street Church Academy
Emotions are one of those things most of us take for granted and don’t really ever stop to think about or analyse. However having the words to describe how we feel is a really important part of a child’s development. Understanding our emotions and how to manage them is more complex, but important too. Sometimes children need a little extra help and support to develop Emotional Literacy and their ability to understand and deal with their emotions and those of others too.
Modelling and talking about the words we use to describe different emotions and how we feel can help children learn to identify and name their own emotions. Using pictures or acting out different facial expressions for different emotions, and talking about how we feel at different times, can be fun ways of exploring and developing emotional vocabulary with your child.
Exploring emotions resources -
Childrens book about emotions … My Many Coloured Days by Dr Seuss
There are lots of different emotions that children can need support understanding and dealing with. Here we explore just a few. However if you need advice on any other emotions your child is having difficulty with, please contact us and we will discuss other support ideas.
Anxiety
We can all become worried and anxious about different things, but sometimes children can have difficulty dealing with anxious feelings, and this can overwhelm them. This can be debilitating and prevent them from being happy and able to achieve their potential. Sometimes anxieties can cause a child’s behaviour to change - either making them withdraw or show more anger and lash out. Recognising times that may cause anxiety in a child and how they show their anxiety, is key to helping them.
Anxiety explained for kids - video
From Worry Monsters to Worry Boxes - ideas to make or find
Developing strategies that they can use as their anxieties grow or when you or they are aware that something that increases their anxiety is about to happen, can really help children to manage their feelings and responses to them.
Below are a few ways that may help your child to manage and reduce their anxieties.
Mindfulness
Mindfulness for kids - Thought bubble video
Meditation and Music
Relax kids … The big balloon
Peace Out … Introduction
Peace Out … Meditation video links
Smiling Minds APP link … Meditations for all ages 0 -99 yrs
Yoga
Find other calming strategies and activity ideas below and on the Sensory page
Children’s Books about anxiety and worries:
The Very Hungry Worry Monsters by Rosie Greening
Anger
Anger can be a difficult emotion for a child to deal with. It can cause impulsive reactions which can be challenging to deal with. Talking to a child about their feelings or the consequences of their actions if necessary, could escalate the child’s anger if done straight away. However giving your child a short time to calm down, in a safe place, can give them time to calm down and allow their initial intense feelings to subside. Talking to them and addressing any issues and consequences when the child is much calmer, enables the child to listen to you, and what you need to say more easily.
Sometimes children will recognise how this Time Out strategy can help them, and will start to use it independently without prompting. If you think this could help your child, agree a quiet, safe space with your child for them to ‘retreat’ to if and when they need to. This could be a hoop on the floor, a mat, a tent or tepee placed in a quiet, safe space in your home. It is an idea to walk past to monitor this space when children use it, just to keep an eye on how they are, and when they may be ready to talk.
Having time to reflect on their behaviour is an important part of helping a child learn about what went wrong and how they could react differently. Reflection time helps them to think about how they could respond differently in the future, if they start to feel angry again. Young children will often need help in reflecting in a meaningful way.
Restoration is also an important part of dealing with our actions when they have gone wrong. After reflecting on their behaviour, encourage your child to ‘put something right again’. It may involve picking up toys that have been thrown on the floor, or saying sorry to their brother or sister if they have been hurt by words or actions.
NHS Dealing with Anger in Children - web link
Helping children with angry feelings - web link
You may also find the ‘Challenging Behaviour’ page useful.